Last night I went to a party and Mr. Perfect (from my previous entry "Always falling for Mr.Perfect") was there. It was the first time I had seen him since we met so I decided to go up and say hello. He was really nice, gave me a hug, and asked if I wanted to dance. Of course, I said yes. We go out to the dance floor and begin chatting about random things. He tells me that he was really impressed by how well I did at leading our volunteer group, especially since I'm only a sophomore. During the rest of the conversation he keeps alluding to my age (which is only 2 years younger than his) so I get the hint that he is trying to tell me I am too young for him to take me seriously as relationship potential.

But seriously, this guy is 21 or 22, I'm almost 20. Is this really a big age gap? I recently talked to some other guys that told me they would date girls 5 to 10 years older than them before they would date even 2 years younger. I find all of this funny since the historic norm for age in relationships has always been men dating down, women dating up. However, it seems like more and more guys these days are prefering older women.

Has anyone else noticed this trend? Guys, do you prefer to date women younger, older, or the same age as you?

Okay, so sometimes guys will use this as a cheesy pick-up line to try to convince a girl that she is so perfect it is a miracle that no other guy has picked her up yet.

But what about when other people say this, like a parent or a friend? The other day one of my friends who is in a happy relationship said this to me. I wasn't sure how to take it, I mean is it supposed to be a compliment coming from her? It felt more like she was implying that there must be something wrong with me because even though I am decent looking and have an okay social life, I am still single. It also sounded like she viewed being single as this horrible disgrace.

Yes, I'm single. I meet guys all the time and I would like to have a boyfriend, sure. But I'm not going to date the first guy I come across who shows interest. I mean I'll go out with him, but if the chemistry is not there than it's not there, I'm not going to force anything. I have another friend who has been in a relationship for the past few months with a guy that she's never really been all that into. It started because of his interest in her, but recently that has faded too. He even fully admitted to her recently that he has a crush on another girl, but did she break up with him for this? No, they are still together in the most twisted, messed up relationship ever. They are both just the kind of people who feel that they "need" to have someone to be exclusive with. I've never been like that.

The fact is I don't need someone. I am happy with my life for the most part. I like school and my future goals are more important to me than finding someone that I want to spend the rest of my life with. I'm only 19. I hopefully still have 4/5 of my life left to find someone.

When I meet someone and we have chemistry than great. I'm not going to lie and say that I don't often hope for that to happen. I do and I'm excited for that day to come. But even though movies like The Notebook would have you think otherwise, life does not revolve around "the one". Relationships are a huge part of life, but they are not everything.

I feel like society believes that if an attractive, well-rounded individual has been single for awhile their must be an issue there: either they are hiding their sexual orientation or they just like to hook-up all the time and hate monogamy or something. The fact that they possibly just haven't found the one for them is just unfathomable. However, that is usually the case.

Has anyone ever said this to you? Have you ever assumed that there is something wrong with someone because they are always single?

So the other day I met this guy at a volunteer service project. It was lust at first sight. He was perfect- tall, handsome, smart, friendly, funny... the list goes on. When I get home I decide to do some personal investigation via facebook to make sure he doesn't have a girlfriend (or boyfriend...) or any other dating dealbreakers. He doesn't. He's involved in tons of organizations on campus, has great taste in music, and is pre-law.

At this point I should be jumping for joy at the concept of meeting such a great guy, but instead all this information leaves me disheartened. He's too perfect. He's the kind of guy that every girl loves and every guy wants to be. I can tell by the amount of facebook friends he has and what they say on his wall (yeah, I was totally being a facebook creep, don't act like you've never done it). Basically, I don't have a chance.

Another guy that I've liked since I started college over a year ago is the same way. That guy that all the girls crush on but never think they actually have a chance with. I don't understand why I always fall for the guys that I consider to be way outside my league. Couldn't I just crush someone who actually has a few flaws for once?

Have you ever liked someone who you considered to be outside your league? Did it ever work out?